Do you ever catch yourself thinking rude things about someone or judging them and you’re like “hey stop that, that’s not nice don’t u do that”
Yes. And I think it means we need to spend less time with judgmental people, and/pr that we need to spend less time watching TV, listening to the radio, reading yourtube comments, etc. I think we need to avoid judgmental influences as much as we can. We tend to pick up the habits of those we spend time with, so it is important to spend time with people whose habits we actually want to develop more in ourselves.
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Hi sweetheart. <3
Wow this is potentially a big question and I’m not sure of the specifics of the abuse but I’ll see what comes up for me with a little contemplation, my friend.
The anger can be felt, witnessed, and allowed to move through you. Exercise some of it out and don’t allow it to sit in your body and marinate in it. There is nothing wrong with anger itself, but obviously it shouldn’t be acted on, nor is it good or healthy for it to be repressed. There is always something under anger, though… something more vulnerable that gets more to the core of what you are trying to grieve and let go of. What is that for you? Is it the fear? Fear of what? Is it the betrayal of your sacred space and the care someone was entrusted with when you entered into the relationship? Are you grieving the loss of safety or innocence? Are you in any way blaming yourself? Is there shame and anger then that it is arising within you as you question your own barometer for trust and openness? How does that vulnerable child that still lives in you feel? Is there a longing for nurturing and a hurt that is deep due to breaches of safety? In whatever way it occurs, abuse is energetically violating. Acknowledging that to yourself is important, but don’t allow yourself to be defined by it. Your spirit is very much whole.
There is a lot you could explore, love. Above are a few questions that would often be found significant for someone who has been through an abusive relationship, and there are more. You can write about them… Unearth the answers. Sit someplace quiet and write and go deeper inside yourself. Tell your pet all about it. Draw or write poetry or sing about it… Feel… Cry… let the lightbulb go on and allow yourself to smile because you are healing.
The fear is about safety, right? Whether it’s physical distance you need, or no communication with your ex, create those boundaries consciously so your feeling of being safe can allow you to breathe and find your own balance again. You will be able to trust again, love. Spend time with people who treat you well, including being your own good company. Nurture yourself, sweetheart. Exercise to help expel that emotional energy, eat well, and sleep. Laugh. Go to counseling. There are a million ways to nurture yourself. Be your own safety in the best of ways and the fear and the anger will dissipate and you will be able to take steps to trust and open with another.
I love you, and you will rise again. <3
Namaste, beautiful spirit.
The Universe sends us exactly what we are ready for at the exact time we need it in our lives.Sending Light, Brooke (via ranjhana)