When I was 12 boys slid their hand up my thigh and slapped my butt. I smiled and took it because I didn’t know it was okay to say stop. I didn’t know that I could say no. So, when the principal calls telling me my daughter is suspended for punching a boy who wouldn’t stop touching her, I will cook her favorite meals. When she tells me how she cursed at the boy who wouldn’t move his hands off her knee even though she asked him to, I will smile and pull out her favorite movie to watch together. I will celebrate the fact that she accepts her body as her own and knows she has the right to say no. I never want my daughter to think her body belongs to men, because it is her own and my god should she be proud. I will teach her it’s more than okay to say stop, something I wish I had known when I was that age.
don’t be soft, let the world know you exist // 5-26-14 // 9:01AM (via restrictedthoughts)
OH MY GOD FUCKIN YES PREAAAACH THIS IS SO FUCKIN RIGHT
A happy man is too satisfied with the present to dwell too much on the future.Albert Einstein (via livethemessage)
my ultimate goal is to be at peace with myself, eliminate toxic feelings and elements and energies from my life, unlearn negative and harmful practices and thought patterns, stop checking for people that don’t check for me, create a space for myself that is nurturing for growth so that i may generate loving energy for myself and for others, nourish my spirit and balance my energies, i have big dreams and i deserve to live a life i love and let that love radiate
I hope you get there. <3
Rape is one of the most terrible crimes on earth. And it happens every few minutes. The problem with groups who deal with rape is that they try to educate women about how to defend themselves. What really needs to be done is teaching men not to rape. Go to the source and start there.Kurt Cobain talking in November 1991 about the background behind the song ‘Polly’ (via cavum)
Hi sweetheart. <3
This is an interesting and poignant question. I love your attitude of learning! :)
Let’s look at what compassion is not. It’s not codependency. Compassion is not living without boundaries. It doesn’t leave the person experiencing it out of the equation. Compassion is not giving in to someone’s manipulation or satisfying their needs above your own.
The foundation of compassion, in my mind anyway, is empathy. Empathy is the ability to switch perspectives, to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and feel what they may be feeling. Compassion then is feeling with them from a perspective of shared humanity. There is no judgment, but rather an openness from the level of the heart, a genuine caring.
Sometimes it is most compassionate to let someone fall down, or cry, or miss a deadline. Sometimes what is best for our spirit is not to be saved from our own nonsense. Sometimes compassion calls for space, and is offered from a distance. Sometimes it’s a different kind of help than the person is asking for or thinks they need. Sometimes it’s someone telling us things we don’t want to hear. Sometimes it comes in words, and sometimes compassion hangs fully in silence.
We know that Jack Kornfield quote, "If your compassion does not include yourself it is incomplete.”
Finding that way to witness and feel without getting sucked in is essential. To be open and yet grounded in your own heart is the challenge. When someone can’t respond in a healthy way, sometimes the most compassionate thing to do is to say, “I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time. I’m here for you but you’re clearly struggling and I’m really feeling like you may need space right now. When you’re feeling better or are able to share what’s going on inside you, I’d be happy to be here as your friend.” Pay attention to the energy people send you in relationships. You deserve to be treated with respect. Someone can be hurting and still be respectful but sometimes reminders are needed when someone is struggling. If you take in that toxic energy and keep taking it, they may continue to displace their frustrations about all kinds of things onto you without even realizing what they are doing because you are receptive and safe. It truly does them or you no good for you to take that as they don’t learn a healthier avenue and you are beamed again and again with aggressive energy. Compassion is a different ballgame altogether. To stay open and compassionate and yet strong in your own boundaries and grounded in your heart… that is the challenge, love. And it’s a worthy one.
Sending you love, from my heart to yours. <3
Namaste, beautiful spirit.